Providing Professional Doula Services to Families in Greenwich, Westchester and NYC

Labor Support

The short answer is... NO!

Your husband can only be your doula if he IS a doula and even then, being the doula to someone you are emotionally connected to, poses certain challenges.

The role of a doula and the role of your husband/partner during labor are vastly different but equally important. Let me explain….

The Husbands/Partner Role:

The role of your partner (who is emotionally connected to you) in labor is a tremendous asset to you in many ways. Your husband/partner provides comfort to you in a way that a stranger is not capable of.  

They know you intimately; your fears, your passions your deep concerns and your history. They can anticipate your reactions before you have even had them. They are the person you look to in life for support and they are likely the person you feel most comfortable being your real self with.

You grew this new life together and for many couples, this is their first birth experience ever.

This relationship in the delivery room is incredibly valuable, HOWEVER, it is not the doulas role.

The Doulas Role:

The doulas primary focus during your pregnancy is education, followed by the support of the decisions you make. She is able to answer your questions and lead you to the resources that you seek through relationships that she has developed....Read more

 

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Journal Entry, 2013

Dear Diary, (Appropriate changes have been made for privacy)

Wow, diary, what a day this was. I can’t figure out if what I saw today was a representation of enormous strength or a pathetic display of weakness. The truth is, it’s not my place to decide. My role as a doula is to support the mom. What she wants is what I want for her…

As Jennifer’s labor progressed, nothing seemed unusual. She was a healthy 20-year-old woman preparing to give birth to a healthy baby boy.

What you don’t know is that our services were not paid for by Jennifer. Instead, we were hired by Kevin and Leann, the soon to be adoptive parents of that baby boy. Leann agreed to pay for a doula if Jennifer would agree to try to avoid using medication for pain management during the birth. It was a deal and there I found myself.

I must say that often times when I’m with a woman during her birth, I find myself wondering why the universe put the two of us together and this day was no different. Throughout my life, I have learned that nothing happens without a reason. Everything we do, we either learn from, grow from or succeed at, but I left today feeling all three.

When that little boys’ strong, healthy body wriggled out of his mother, Jennifer turned her face towards me and her eyes spilled tears of heart ache down her face. Although my head didn’t know if it were true, my eyes...Read more